Love and Locks: Does Your Boo Have to Love Your Hair?

Happy New Year! 2020 is filled with new opportunities so take advantage of them and go after what you want. First and foremost, let me begin by saying that every relationship is different and what works for one couple may not work for another. Also, I am not a certified relationship expert so the following transcription is simply my opinion and should be taken as such. Now, let’s get into it.

Diversity is one of the characteristics of natural hair that makes it so amazing. We can literally do almost anything with our hair. Twists, braids, locs, straighten, wigs, weaves, or even no hair at all. THIS is the most important thing that your significant other (SO) must understand. Your hair is your most noticeable accessory and you have the freedom to try out any style that you like. Before they become bae, make sure that they know this.

Things would be so much better if your favorite hairstyle on yourself is also your SO’s favorite hairstyle on you. In no way is this necessary or should be added to your list of demands for a boo, but imagine this: you’re feeling yourself and have the time to get your favorite hairstyle done. Let’s say it’s extra small, butt-length knotless box braids (and those take a long time). You’re SO doesn’t know that your getting them done so you surprise them the next day. Then BOOM! They’re excited and gassing you up, you’re excited and posing for all of the pictures and videos, and your favorite hairstyle has created a moment of happiness for the both of you. However, imagine if you sit in a chair from 9 o’clock in the morning to 5 o’clock in the evening just for your bae to say that they prefer your twist outs instead of your favorite style. That’s a bit of a bummer right? So, not saying it’s an integral part of the relationship, but I think it can be really fun for you both to share a favorite hairstyle.

Every girl knows that our hair is not in a perfect style 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. There are so many beneficial treatments that may look a little questionable but offer so much for the health of our hair. Bananas, avocados, eggs, aztec clay are all components of different hair masks that could look a little funny. Bae needs to know this and encourage it. If they are at the grocery store and see that avocados are on sale, they should automatically know that you could use some for your next hair mask. They should also love and accept your pre-hairstyle hairstyle. This means the twists you have preparing for the twist out, the braids for the braid-out, the rods for the flexi rod set. In the end, what I’m trying to convey is that your boo should like the backstage events that result in luxurious hair that we show the rest of the world.

Ultimately, your SO should be open to everything about your hair that you’re open to. I’m not saying they should love every aspect of hair, but they should always be supportive of everything that you do in regards to your mane. You can educate them on the different styles or treatments that you do and even suggest some for them if they’re into it. In a relationship, your hair should never be a dividing factor but something that you both can enjoy. And remember, if they don’t love you in your bonnet, they can’t have you in your twist out.

Your curl sister,


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